Mistakes Can Make or Break You
As I approach my 30th birthday, I’ve taken time to reflect how much has changed in my life in the last decade. During my twenties, I made so many mistakes, hurt people I loved, and behaved in ways that...
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Are you beautiful on the inside or only the outside?
There was once a time that if I heard any of the following: "spirituality, inner peace, vegan, money doesn't buy happiness..." I'd nod my head while rolling my eyes thinking, "Enough of this new-age...
What’s More Important – Love or Commitment?
I used to be such a starry-eyed believer of love. I thought that love conquered all – and that as long as you shared that feeling with someone, it meant that the relationship would last, In the theory...
Unhappily Ever After
There was once a point in time where you were deep in the throws of love, and it was as if your partner could do no wrong. You integrate into each others’ lives, you laugh, you play… you love...
To You.
To You. The last few months have been one of the most challenging times of my life. I lost my job, my income, and along with that, a part of my identity. Then, the relationship with the man who I...
Who You Surround Yourself With, You Become
During high school, we gravitated towards certain friends due to our aspirations and interests of our youth. BFF qualifiers included a shared love for basketball or underage drinking. But then, we grew...
My letter to a dear friend going through a breakup…(an old post from 2009)
Breakups are never easy…and even though you survived your first one a few years ago, for some reason, it doesn’t get “easier” the next time it happens…it’s just different. You hurt just the...
Your Worth
We’ve all been there – feeling victimized by a friend, a boss, or a lover – who has treated us poorly or unfairly. It’s an easy and common tendency to blame the other, make yourself out as the...
The Heart Is Where The Home Is
After a breakup, you realize that on top of losing your romantic partner, you lose many other aspects of your life as well. Topping the list: community, family, companionship, security, stability, and...
Lesson of Heartbreak
I've been blessed with a very fortunate life. But like everyone else out there, I've had my share of hardships and demons to battle with. I've been through the death of close friends, been bullied to the...
Remember the Good
When you experience a breakup or heartache, it is easy to focus on everything that went wrong. Your mind plays every disappointment and argument like a movie reel. Suddenly you have selective memory, and...
Lessons in Domestic Partnership
For many, domestic partnership is the next logical step in the relationship growth path after the dating stage. While it can be cohabitating bliss, it can also be a near disaster if you don’t learn how...
Nurture Your Important Relationships
You meet the man of your dreams. As he courts you, he showers you with attention and affection. He woos you with flowers, surprises you with incredibly fun dates. He’s handsome, smart, and thoughtful...
Is Cheating Genetic?
Could your partner’s potential to be promiscuous lie partially in his/her DNA? Researchers from Binghamton University seem to think so. They found that a “particular version of a dopamine receptor...
The Dopamine Daze
When deep in the throes of love, in between the sleepless nights, heart palpitations and whirling butterflies, it is hard to imagine that such a high will ever fade. "This one's different," you...
The Unspoken Rule of Reciprocity
There is an unspoken rule of reciprocity that people either a) respect and participate in b) are oblivious to or c) choose to ignore. It is arguable that the people in both group...
5 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Exciting
You’re in a rut. You’ve been with your partner for many years now. Life now is about routine, chores and schedules. Long gone are the days of butterflies, surprises and spontaneous dates. You think...
5 Things You SHOULDN’T Do When You Argue
1. Say, "Calm down". Two measly words guaranteed to piss off your partner to the nth degree. "Lighten up" "Relax" - yes these also fall under that same category and yes, I'm guilty...
Relationship Reality Check
When I was a little girl, I fantasized that one day, I’d find my prince charming who was handsome and romantic, and he’d spoil me with flowers and all the other grand gestures I read about in...